gh-112532: Use separate mimalloc heaps for GC objects (gh-113263)

* gh-112532: Use separate mimalloc heaps for GC objects

In `--disable-gil` builds, we now use four separate heaps in
anticipation of using mimalloc to find GC objects when the GIL is
disabled. To support this, we also make a few changes to mimalloc:

* `mi_heap_t` and `mi_tld_t` initialization is split from allocation.
  This allows us to have a `mi_tld_t` per-`PyThreadState`, which is
  important to keep interpreter isolation, since the same OS thread may
  run in multiple interpreters (using different PyThreadStates.)

* Heap abandoning (mi_heap_collect_ex) can now be called from a
  different thread than the one that created the heap. This is necessary
  because we may clear and delete the containing PyThreadStates from a
  different thread during finalization and after fork().

* Use enum instead of defines and guard mimalloc includes.

* The enum typedef will be convenient for future PRs that use the type.
* Guarding the mimalloc includes allows us to unconditionally include
  pycore_mimalloc.h from other header files that rely on things like
  `struct _mimalloc_thread_state`.

* Only define _mimalloc_thread_state in Py_GIL_DISABLED builds

Include/internal/mimalloc/mimalloc/internal.h

@@ -85,6 +85,7 @@ mi_threadid_t _mi_thread_id(void) mi_attr_noexcept;
 mi_heap_t*    _mi_heap_main_get(void);     // statically allocated main backing heap
 void       _mi_thread_done(mi_heap_t* heap);
 void       _mi_thread_data_collect(void);
+void       _mi_tld_init(mi_tld_t* tld, mi_heap_t* bheap);
 
 // os.c
 void       _mi_os_init(void);                                            // called from process init
@@ -170,6 +171,7 @@ size_t     _mi_bin_size(uint8_t bin);           // for stats
 uint8_t    _mi_bin(size_t size);                // for stats
 
 // "heap.c"
+void       _mi_heap_init_ex(mi_heap_t* heap, mi_tld_t* tld, mi_arena_id_t arena_id);
 void       _mi_heap_destroy_pages(mi_heap_t* heap);
 void       _mi_heap_collect_abandon(mi_heap_t* heap);
 void       _mi_heap_set_default_direct(mi_heap_t* heap);